"I want to get out!"

"I want to get out!" my wife said.

I was having fun...
Meanwhile, she was panicking.

My wife once used this analogy to describe her life with me:

"I hate being your passenger while you drive our entrepreneurial life like a madman."

Wow. That opened my eyes.

If she always feels like a passenger in a speeding car,
one day, she’ll want to get out.

Since then, I’ve learned to be more empathetic.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

You don’t necessarily need to slow down —
you need to help her feel safe in the ride.

This is more common than most people admit.

My wife and I don’t see risk the same way.

For me, it feels normal to invest time, money, and energy into the business.

Meanwhile, she’s watching the savings disappear and quietly wondering,
“Are we going to fail?”

I used to take that fear personally.

But the truth?

She wasn’t doubting me.
She was grieving the safety and comfort we left behind.

What helped us?

– Sharing not just the vision — but the risks
– Asking, “What do you need to feel safe while I build this?”
– Actually listening (without getting defensive)

Your partner doesn’t need to have the same risk tolerance as you.
But they do need to feel the same trust.

Have you ever experienced this challenge before?
I’d love to hear how you navigated it.

Wishing you success,
HQ